Dr. William Edwards - Licensed Psychologist
"The journey to an emotionally rewarding life often is best taken with a compassionate guide who has walked the path himself."
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OVERCOMING MARITAL AND RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS

A good marriage or relationship is one of life's great joys. All too often, what starts out as wonderful can become mediocre or disastrous. In many cases, marriage counseling (or relationship counseling for those not married) can restore the love, harmony and devotion so vital to a fulfilling life.

The first step is to find a marriage counselor with whom both people are compatible and with whom they feel heard and understood. If you feel the marriage counselor is taking the side of one person, rather than a balanced approach, it will be very difficult to achieve your goals.

It is also essential that you are candid and honest in your sessions, and that you bring to the attention of your marital therapist any concerns you have, no matter how uneasy they make you feel; this includes any concerns or observations you have about how the marital therapist is working with you. I value and welcome all feedback and find that it enhances my relationships with clients. You should always feel treated with respect and compassion.

Having done marriage counseling for 26 years, and been married for 32,
I have found the following three components to be fundamental.

BECOME A GOOD COMMUNICATOR

All of us must learn how to be skilled communicators. It is particularly important to be able to do this when stressed or upset. I coach all of the couples I see in marriage counseling in core communication skills such as enhanced listening, direct and respectful statements, timing and time outs, and eliminating hitting below the belt. I refer to this last skill as damage control. When we are angry and hurt it is tempting to say mean and disrespectful things, yet this leads to alienation, resulting in counter attacks, passive aggressive behavior or withdrawal.

MANAGING EMOTIONS

Everyone has their own emotional history. Originating in our relationships with parents, siblings and peers our emotional relationship patterns often play out repetitively in our marriages. Of course, some of this is inevitable and not always a bad thing. Yet unmet early needs or emotional and physical abuse lead us to act out old patterns of defensiveness and unreasonable entitlement that undermine marriages and relationships. A focus of my marriage counseling is illuminating these patterns so that couples may be free to live together in the present.

CULTIVATING DEVOTION

Good marital therapy and relationship counseling assists couples in reconnecting with their devotion to each other. A marriage is not about you or me, but us. It is a partnership based on appreciation, love and respect. Commitment and devotion see couples through the tough times. It requires finding the courage within us to be emotionally vulnerable and intimate and to take responsibility for our words and deeds.

Marriage counseling is one of the most rewarding parts of my work as a psychologist. Helping couples go from misery to happiness is a true source of fulfillment and joy.


Dr. Edward provides services to residents of Centennial, Littleton, Highlands Ranch, Greenwood Village, Parker, Denver and surrounding areas.

To make an appointment or ask questions please call me at 303-220-9385 or e-mail me at edwards@drwmedwards.com

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